Final Day - Miraval

I think today was the most relaxing day of my trip to Miraval. No challenge courses. No jumping off from high places. No horse telling me what my issues are. I went on a morning hike in the Sonoma Desert, played a little tennis, took a photography class, and went to a gratitude meditation.

It's been a life altering week for me. Key take-aways:

1. Get out of my own head; stop over thinking or over analyzing. Just do it.
2. I don't have a fear of heights. I have a fear of being exposed and vulnerable. And it's perfectly okay, even healthy, to be exposed and vulnerable.
3. Just let go and take that first step.
4. Trust myself and my body.
5. The fear is not real.

I wanted to share my experiences with you so that maybe you can learn something about the stories that are going on in your head and how they're stopping you from moving forward. I hope my journey has inspired you to try something different and really PUSH yourself out of that comfort zone, even if it means being scared.

I'll be back to Miraval soon. There are still some challenge courses I want to take. Next stop: Phoenix to spend time with some dear friends of mine 

Hugs and kisses from Tucson.

Miraval - Day 4

My final challenge here at Miraval: Quantum Leap. I climbed a 25-foot telephone poll and stood on a platform that was no larger than a 12-inch pizza. Oh, and it spun. So it was like standing on a Lazy Susan. Of course I was harnessed and belayed, but I still had nothing to hold on to. Originally I had thought the challenge was jumping off. But the challenge is actually getting up on that tiny platform. I wasn't sure how it was possible, but as I climbed the ladder, my decision was to not over-think it, and just do it. Because the more I'd thought about it, the more fear would set in. Take a look at the video to see how I did.

One of the other reasons I chose Miraval was for the equine therapy courses. Today I took a course called It's Not About The Horse instructed by Wyatt Webb. Google him to learn more about him. He's very interesting.

The task in the equine therapy course was to go up to a horse and squeeze it's leg to get it to raise its hoof so you can clean it with a pick. Sounds easy enough. But what some people may not realize is that horses pick up on your energies. So any shit going on in your head, the horse is going to notice, and he will not lift his hoof.

When Wyatt first explained the task, I felt confident. After all, I'd walked across a log 25 feet in the air, jumped off a 12-inch Lazy Susan from 25 feet in the air, and swung from 35 feet. I was feeling confident. But as I listened to others in the class uncover their struggles, I began to wonder? What's my issue? Can I really do this? What am I afraid of? Failure, rejection, and being exposed were a few things that entered my mind. Plus I was anxious and curious. What was Wyatt going to force me to uncover?

So when it was my turn, of course the damn horse didn't lift it's hoof. Because by then I had all these stories floating around my head. Then this other guy took his turn. I don't remember what his issue was, but Wyatt talked him through it, then he went over to the horse and succeeded in getting him to raise his hoof. The man then came back to me and handed me the pick. So here's what went through my mind in the next split second: Why is he handing the pick to me? Shouldn't he give it back to Wyatt so Wyatt can ask me what I'm thinking and what I'm fearing and blah blah blah? Are we doing this right? Blah blah blah.

Finally I thought, "Just shut up and do it." I grabbed the pick walked over to the horse, pinched his leg, and he raised his hoof.

So my key take a way was: Get out of my own head and just do it. Which, interestingly, was what I was feeling at the start of the class before all that stuff entered my mind. I've got to stop all the analytical stories that run through my mind every day, and just go for it.

Profound.

Phew. That's it for the challenges. Tomorrow, my last day at Miraval, is going to be a cake walk. Hugs and kisses from Tucson!

Dani on Quantum Leap at Miraval

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I did it!!!

Miraval - Day 3

I'm not even sure where to begin. So I accomplished Out on the Limb early this morning, which I didn't expect to do. Two steps. That's all I asked myself to accomplish. And I made it all the way across. It was so overwhelming I was crying when I get to the end (you couldn't see it in the video :-) ) It was exhilarating and terrifying and challenging. I was saying all sorts of meditations and chants and prayers while I was up there!

Afterward I knew I had accomplished my fear of letting go. The climb was scary too, but I think I got that down. It's the letting go and taking that first step. At the end I told myself I can accomplish anything: succeeding in business, in writing, and in love.

If you missed the video, check it out here: http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=oKB5UPvkrk0

Well, as if walking along a pole 25 feet in the air without any support wasn't enough, I was talked into doing another challenge called Face to Face. It involved climbing up that damn 25 foot poll again, but this time I was joined by a partner, Christine, whom I just met last night. Together we stood on separate cables a foot apart and had to hold on to each other for support as we took steps across the cable. Yes, before I climbed that ladder I was asking myself, "Why do you keep doing this, Dani?!"

In this case I was conquering the fear of failing. Since I had made it across the poll on Out on the Limb, I didn't want to disappoint myself by failing at Face to Face. Christine and I relied on each other, coached each other, and took three terrifying steps - a huge accomplishment! Afterward, I was a little disappointed that I felt I lost control. But I learned that it's okay to lose control sometimes. You just need to go with it and see what happens. (Check out the video of Christine and I doing our challenge below.)

It was an emotionally exhausting day. I ended it with a double limoncello. Hugs and kisses from Tucson!

Dani & Christine on Face to Face at Miraval - Part 2

Day 2 - Miraval

The best thing I did today was the activity I was fearing the most called Swing and a Prayer. Five brave women and I sat in a circle with our instructor named Lewis Beach (isn't that a great name? I think I'll use that as a character name in my next book!). He asked us to think about something we wanted to release. I told him I had a slight fear of heights that I wanted to overcome. He told me that I didn't have a fear of heights, but a fear of being exposed and vulnerable. We don't need to conquer our fears; we just need to learn how to handle them.

Then as each one of us took our turns, we were tightened into harnesses, climbed up a 10-foot ladder, hooked on to a cable, then pulled up to 35 feet in the air while dangling. Lewis encouraged us to hang out up there, take in the scenery, think about our goals and what we wanted to release. Then when we were ready, we let go and swooshed through the air. It was both terrifying and exhilarating.

Afterward, we sat in a circle again and discussed what we were feeling. Two important points that Lewis wanted us to learn from the experience: Whatever we were releasing was still going to creep back into our lives again at times. And when that happens, he wants us to think of that one moment, right before we let go, right before we swooshed through the air, and how empowered we felt. He also pointed out that even though we each had our own private moment to release during our turns, we weren't alone. The entire activity was a team exercise. When we need to release, we are never alone. We have our family, our friends, our journal, our pets. All there to help us get through our adversities.

Click on the link below to see me swing through the air! :-0

I also took an aerial yoga class. Picture a small silk hammock just big enough to sit in, hanging from the ceiling. We did all the traditional yoga poses using the silk. Now I want one in my home!

I went to another session with Tejpal (she was the one who taught us how to use our intuition yesterday). This session was about finding our life mission by discovering what brings joy to our lives. Of course, writing entered my mind. But that doesn't always bring me joy - sometimes it brings frustration. However, during a meditation at the end of the class I actually thought of an interesting character to add to my next novel.

Finally, I finished my long enlightening day by attending a session called Calm The Mind, Open the Heart where we used Tibetan singing bowls to calm our minds, center our hearts and reconnect our bodies to its wisdom of self-healing :-)

I'm exhausted. Hugs and kisses from Tucson!

http://youtu.be/zURjov7BT6A

Miraval - Day 1

After arriving, having a quick lunch and settling into my room, I walked around the resort and wondered, "Now what?"

I went to a session on how to listen to your intuition. Key take away was that it's okay to be clueless. Don't expect to have all the answers. Take a breath before responding, and let you're intuition lead you. The more clueless you are, the more insights you gain.

We then paired up with someone we didn't know and exchanged a personal item. I gave a woman named Sophia my heart ring. She gave me her scarf. Then we meditated and let our intuition speak to us about the other person. I told Sophia her scarf made me think of a cloud, like I was floating. I sensed she was opening herself to new experiences. She sensed in me that I was light, playful and childlike (she thought I was really young - haha). I told her that I was just getting my second wind in life 

After that I booked it to the Agave Center for an evening chakra meditation, then back to the main building for dinner with a bunch of interesting ladies that are all here on their own adventures. 

Did you know you could LIVE at Miraval?! Villas and casitas are for sale. Something to thing about